Midnight Mama

Coming up for air after 6 months of survival mode

In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of a recent traumatic experience involving my son and how it forced me to stop, feel, and breathe again.
I talk about what it’s like to go underwater emotionally, the guilt and grief that followed, and the clarity that only challenges can bring. More importantly, I reflect on what this experience taught me about motherhood, mental health, and the importance of choosing yourself, even when everything around you feels heavy.
This is a conversation about honoring the hard moments, taking a breath, and deciding how to move forward, more softly, slowly, and intentionally.
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At the intersection of Postpartum and Perimenopause with "Hot or Just Me?" Founder, Carin Luna-Ostaseski

If it's not one thing it's another, and I am referring to the hurdles and life event's of mothers and women.  Today I had the privilege of sitting down with Hot or Just Me founder, Carin Luna-Ostaseski to talk about the intersection of postpartum and perimenopause, and how we don't have to simply accept this stage in life.  We openly explore the most common symptoms of perimenopause, the frequency and duration of this timeframe, and what you can do to educate yourself on perimenopause and make yourself more comfortable.  You will NOT want to miss this discussion or getting to know Carin.
About our Guest: Carin Luna-Ostaseski is the founder of Hot or Just Me?, a comprehensive online shop and go-to resource for managing perimenopause and menopause. The site offers a wide range of trusted products, expert advice, a gift shop and bookstore, and a supportive community, ensuring women have everything needed to navigate this transformative stage and feel empowered. Luna-Ostaseski's journey with perimenopause symptoms like hot flashes, brain fog, anxiety, insomnia, and night sweats inspired her mission to find a solution.
A serial entrepreneur, Luna-Ostaseski is the first American woman and Hispanic person to create a Scotch whisky (SIA Scotch Whisky). The award-winning blend, launched through a record-breaking Kickstarter campaign, has left a significant mark in the industry. She also founded the Entrepreneurial Spirit Fund by SIA Scotch, which has provided over $350,000 in grants to underserved entrepreneurs, making a tangible difference in their lives. She continues championing the next generation of entrepreneurs in her ongoing commitment to helping people thrive.
 
As mentioned in the episode, you can follow this link and use MidnightMom for 10% off any products after visiting her site and taking their quiz.
 
Additional links mentioned
Finding a trusted and trained provider here @Menopause.org
The New Menopause Dr. Mary Claire Haver

CORRECTED:"Motherhood: An Ever-Evolving Journey"

In this episode, we explore the multifaceted and continuously changing nature of motherhood. Far from being a static role, motherhood evolves with time, personal growth, and shifting dynamics within the family. From the early days of infancy, through the toddler years, adolescence, and into adulthood, the journey of being a mother is marked by constant adaptation, learning, and transformation. We discuss how motherhood isn't defined by a single set of rules, but rather, is shaped by an individual’s experiences, cultural influences, and personal values and that is why we don't have a rule book.  Tune in as I share my perspective for this current season of motherhood and it's hosts of challenges, and offer some tips and tricks on how to set yourself up for success in each season, after you define it.
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Recognizing and Recovering from Burnout; Motherhood edition.

What happens when you get burned out at your job?  Most people can recognize this and then take action, such as taking a vacation or a sick day, which can help you step away and get recentered. What happens when moms get burned out and can't plan a holiday away from their family, or call in sick?  The 2024 moms have more responsibilities than ever, contributing to overstimulation and burnout in more than one area of their lives.  These experiences impact how we show up for ourselves, our children, and our careers, and get mislabeled resulting in a few layers of mom guilt.  In this episode, I explore the signs and symptoms of burnout, and how to leverage supports in your life and exercise creativity to prevent and recover from burnout.  Even single moms, or moms with minimal support can put systems in place to support their mental health.  There is something for everyone in this episode.  As always, I would love to hear from you so feel free to share the episode or write a review.  If you need support and you aren't sure where to turn, I invite you to book a call with me here and talk about what that support would look like and let me show you how some of our services can be helpful for you.

I wasn't emotionally present during postpartum. Now what?

When we encounter difficult or challenging times (hello postpartum) our brains attempt to protect us, shielding us from any type of harm, emotionally or physically and it looks different for everyone.  I share my experience with emotional removal from the postpartum period, what it looked like, why I think it happened, and how it presented for me years down the road.  Whether you are a new mom, expecting mom, or seasoned, this has valid points an reassurance for YOU.  Learning to stay present through the challenges can bring rewards later down the road and leave you open for less "what if's" if you can leverage it.
Remember, nobody can tell you that you hold your baby too much, whether they are 3 weeks old or 30 years old.  They are your baby and your connection to all great things.  If you are interested in working through some of what was discussed here, then I invite you to connect with me.  
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Why throwing out the Christmas Tree was a necessary choice for my postpartum recovery

You might be wondering how these two intertwine and if you tune in I promise you will learn very quickly.  I recognize that we put so much emphasis on the physical aspect of postpartum recovery without much mention of the mental health component.  It takes work, insight, and choice to be able to overcome some significant challenges that occurred throughout the postpartum period.  Sometimes you need a clean slate to build upon to recover successfully, and other times you need to do nothing so you can survive. Learning which season you are in can help determine the intervention, and sometimes it will result in you tossing your Christmas tree.  I hope you enjoy listening to this full circle postpartum recovery moment for me, and if you need some assistance in your recovery, you can always book a free consultation.  Happy Thanksgiving all.

It's beginning to look a lot like...Stress, Anxiety, and the Holiday Season. Prioritizing your mental health and protecting your peace during the Holiday Season

I'm so excited to be back after some short time away and to be as transparent as possible, life has been kicking me around a bit, mentally.  I decided to share with you what I have been doing to protect my peace and mental health during this time, and how I plan to carry that through to the holiday season.  The world around us might be a bit chaotic and feel unsafe, but I want you to know that you are always welcome here, and I am available if you need assistance now, or at any point in the future.  Be sure to follow me on IG at nicole_kumi and you can always email me at nkumi@thewholemom.com

To the Mom who lost her shit recently

Have you ever had a moment with your kids or spouse where you could feeling yourself unwinding but you cannot stop?  Yep, that was me this week, dealing with stress and sick kiddos, and eventually losing my shit on my daughter.  I experienced all of the emotions and guilt that came along with not being able to hold it together.  I share that experience with you in this episode, as well as how I bounced back from it, future expectations, and I give you permission to lose your shit once in a while so you can experience the wide array of emotions afforded to us as humans.  You are human, you will lose your shit, it is ok, and there is a lesson to be learned here.  I hope you enjoy this and find some validation knowing it is a natural and healthy part of your process

The postpartum spiral and losing control

One of the hardest parts of motherhood is the loss of control in the postpartum period.  Without the proper education and information about the realities of the postpartum period, moms are left to figure many things out on their own, often leading to a decline in their mental health.  I share my journey around losing control and how attempting to protect my mental health put me at risk for late-onset postpartum depression.  Tune in as I talk about this process and how I eventually intervened, implementing systems that would help me recover.
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Getting your "pink" back postpartum.

You may have heard about flamingos losing their pink during pregnancy and the postpartum period.  It's an interesting phenomenon that many moms can relate to, once you learn how to apply it to your current situation.  Tune into this episode where I transparently share with you that I have finally gotten my pink back, four years postpartum, and what I learned about this process. Just a reminder to you, your story and journey are YOURS.  Let no one invalidate "how long" it takes for your pink to come back, or suggest it "should" be back by now.  You take your sweet time if you want to, and make sure the color suits you when it does shine through.
 
If you are in the space of finding your pink, you are not alone, and there is support.  Feel free to fill out a consultation for coaching where we can help you with this process.
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