Midnight Mama
Most women, and especially mothers, find they have little time during the day to actually process the amount of decisions they had to make, and weigh their potential impact. If you are like me, midnight seems to be an appropriate time to lay awake and begin the process of analyzing how ONE of the decisions you made today will ultimately derail your entire life, or, someone you are responsible for...If this is you, then meet me at midnight might be the place for you to find some sisterhood, validation, and a whole lot of humor.
Episodes

12 hours ago
12 hours ago
We measure our growth and progress in the postpartum period by months rather than spaces. In this episode, I share a new concept I developed called the Postpartum Stages, and explore what each stage looks like, what to expect from yourself, and how long these should last (reference guides). I use this with my 1:1 clients to help give them a framework to navigate rather than an arbitrary deadline of 6 months, 9 months, or 12 months pp. The stages help you accurately measure your progress based on outcomes, not deadlines. I will walk you through the 4 stages that cover two years postpartum and lay the foundation for you to build upon.
If you enjoy this episode and are interested in working together on navigating these stages, please email me @ nkumi@thewholemom.com

Tuesday Jun 17, 2025
Tuesday Jun 17, 2025
I had the distinct honor to sit down with Dr. Moya O'Leary, a psychologist and LPC, to open a large can of worms related to the "Mother wound" and generational influences. We had a candid conversation about our pasts, and Dr O'Leary simplified the ideation of the mother wound, how our bodies keep score, and how we can still choose to mother the way we intend.
Dr. Moya O'Leary is a psychologist and licensed professional counselor, currently licensed in Connecticut, Florida, and Pennsylvania. She’s a proud mother of two, Wyatt and Olive, and a loving bonus mom to Carolyn. Moya blends relational-attachment theory with cognitive behavioral strategies in her work, supporting clients through nuanced emotional challenges with compassion and clarity. She is currently pursuing certification in Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy, deepening her exploration of consciousness and healing to help clients access deeper self-understanding. She aptly named her practice Healing Clover Counseling as a nod to her Irish roots and the four leaves of the clover, representing the four stages of life she has dedicated her career to: trying to conceive, pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood. Moya is grateful to have connected with Nicole on the Midnight Mama podcast and is open to any other professionals interested in collaborating.
Where to find Dr. O'Leary:
Healing Clover Counseling
IG: @Healing_Clover_Counseling

Tuesday Jun 10, 2025
Tuesday Jun 10, 2025
I had the honor today to sit down with Tides of Life Doula and Perinatal Bereavement Services, CEO, Ashley Inclima, for an in-depth discussion about the importance of perinatal grief and loss education for birth workers.
Ashley Inclima is a birth and bereavement doula, certified grief educator, and founder of Tides of Life Doula & Perinatal Bereavement Services LLC. Her passion for this work began after the loss of her son Adrian, whose fatal diagnosis in 2011 led to a termination for medical reasons. She later experienced a 5-week pregnancy loss, which further highlighted how often families navigating loss are met with a lack of resources, support, and compassionate care.
Drawing from her journey, specialized training, and over a decade of professional experience in OB/GYN settings, Ashley supports families through loss, pregnancy after loss, and early postpartum. She also provides education for doulas and birth professionals on offering trauma-informed, compassionate care, and recently launched a self-paced version of her Tides of Life: Perinatal Loss Training to increase accessibility.
Ashley facilitates Tides of Life: Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support Circle, an online community with a monthly gathering for grieving families. Her mission is to ensure no one walks through loss alone and to help birth workers feel prepared to hold space for healing.
Some additional resources from Ashley:
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Online Support Community:

Monday Jun 02, 2025
Monday Jun 02, 2025
In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of a recent traumatic experience involving my son and how it forced me to stop, feel, and breathe again.
I talk about what it’s like to go underwater emotionally, the guilt and grief that followed, and the clarity that only challenges can bring. More importantly, I reflect on what this experience taught me about motherhood, mental health, and the importance of choosing yourself, even when everything around you feels heavy.
This is a conversation about honoring the hard moments, taking a breath, and deciding how to move forward, more softly, slowly, and intentionally.
Connect with me if you need support

Thursday Feb 20, 2025
Thursday Feb 20, 2025
If it's not one thing it's another, and I am referring to the hurdles and life event's of mothers and women. Today I had the privilege of sitting down with Hot or Just Me founder, Carin Luna-Ostaseski to talk about the intersection of postpartum and perimenopause, and how we don't have to simply accept this stage in life. We openly explore the most common symptoms of perimenopause, the frequency and duration of this timeframe, and what you can do to educate yourself on perimenopause and make yourself more comfortable. You will NOT want to miss this discussion or getting to know Carin.
About our Guest: Carin Luna-Ostaseski is the founder of Hot or Just Me?, a comprehensive online shop and go-to resource for managing perimenopause and menopause. The site offers a wide range of trusted products, expert advice, a gift shop and bookstore, and a supportive community, ensuring women have everything needed to navigate this transformative stage and feel empowered. Luna-Ostaseski's journey with perimenopause symptoms like hot flashes, brain fog, anxiety, insomnia, and night sweats inspired her mission to find a solution.
A serial entrepreneur, Luna-Ostaseski is the first American woman and Hispanic person to create a Scotch whisky (SIA Scotch Whisky). The award-winning blend, launched through a record-breaking Kickstarter campaign, has left a significant mark in the industry. She also founded the Entrepreneurial Spirit Fund by SIA Scotch, which has provided over $350,000 in grants to underserved entrepreneurs, making a tangible difference in their lives. She continues championing the next generation of entrepreneurs in her ongoing commitment to helping people thrive.
As mentioned in the episode, you can follow this link and use MidnightMom for 10% off any products after visiting her site and taking their quiz.
Additional links mentioned
Finding a trusted and trained provider here @Menopause.org
The New Menopause Dr. Mary Claire Haver

Tuesday Jan 21, 2025
Tuesday Jan 21, 2025
In this episode, we explore the multifaceted and continuously changing nature of motherhood. Far from being a static role, motherhood evolves with time, personal growth, and shifting dynamics within the family. From the early days of infancy, through the toddler years, adolescence, and into adulthood, the journey of being a mother is marked by constant adaptation, learning, and transformation. We discuss how motherhood isn't defined by a single set of rules, but rather, is shaped by an individual’s experiences, cultural influences, and personal values and that is why we don't have a rule book. Tune in as I share my perspective for this current season of motherhood and it's hosts of challenges, and offer some tips and tricks on how to set yourself up for success in each season, after you define it.
I encourage you to stay connected so head over to The Whole Mom and sign up for our newsletter, especially to get a sneak peak at the free course I'm working on.

Saturday Dec 21, 2024
Saturday Dec 21, 2024
What happens when you get burned out at your job? Most people can recognize this and then take action, such as taking a vacation or a sick day, which can help you step away and get recentered. What happens when moms get burned out and can't plan a holiday away from their family, or call in sick? The 2024 moms have more responsibilities than ever, contributing to overstimulation and burnout in more than one area of their lives. These experiences impact how we show up for ourselves, our children, and our careers, and get mislabeled resulting in a few layers of mom guilt. In this episode, I explore the signs and symptoms of burnout, and how to leverage supports in your life and exercise creativity to prevent and recover from burnout. Even single moms, or moms with minimal support can put systems in place to support their mental health. There is something for everyone in this episode. As always, I would love to hear from you so feel free to share the episode or write a review. If you need support and you aren't sure where to turn, I invite you to book a call with me here and talk about what that support would look like and let me show you how some of our services can be helpful for you.

Monday Dec 09, 2024
Monday Dec 09, 2024
When we encounter difficult or challenging times (hello postpartum) our brains attempt to protect us, shielding us from any type of harm, emotionally or physically and it looks different for everyone. I share my experience with emotional removal from the postpartum period, what it looked like, why I think it happened, and how it presented for me years down the road. Whether you are a new mom, expecting mom, or seasoned, this has valid points an reassurance for YOU. Learning to stay present through the challenges can bring rewards later down the road and leave you open for less "what if's" if you can leverage it.
Remember, nobody can tell you that you hold your baby too much, whether they are 3 weeks old or 30 years old. They are your baby and your connection to all great things. If you are interested in working through some of what was discussed here, then I invite you to connect with me.
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Nicole

Tuesday Nov 26, 2024
Tuesday Nov 26, 2024
You might be wondering how these two intertwine and if you tune in I promise you will learn very quickly. I recognize that we put so much emphasis on the physical aspect of postpartum recovery without much mention of the mental health component. It takes work, insight, and choice to be able to overcome some significant challenges that occurred throughout the postpartum period. Sometimes you need a clean slate to build upon to recover successfully, and other times you need to do nothing so you can survive. Learning which season you are in can help determine the intervention, and sometimes it will result in you tossing your Christmas tree. I hope you enjoy listening to this full circle postpartum recovery moment for me, and if you need some assistance in your recovery, you can always book a free consultation. Happy Thanksgiving all.

Wednesday Nov 06, 2024
Wednesday Nov 06, 2024
I'm so excited to be back after some short time away and to be as transparent as possible, life has been kicking me around a bit, mentally. I decided to share with you what I have been doing to protect my peace and mental health during this time, and how I plan to carry that through to the holiday season. The world around us might be a bit chaotic and feel unsafe, but I want you to know that you are always welcome here, and I am available if you need assistance now, or at any point in the future. Be sure to follow me on IG at nicole_kumi and you can always email me at nkumi@thewholemom.com

Midnight Mama
While Mama is in the title, I am speaking to all women who recap their day and ruminate over the decisions they've made, typically around midnight. This podcast has something for everyone and is designed with light humor and tough love in mind. If you are looking for a nudge in the right direction, or a good laugh, this is where you should be