Midnight Mama

Where ”mom guilt” originated and how you can learn to intercept it

We have all been there, or are there, at some point in our lives.  EVERY mother has experienced some form of "mom guilt" without fully understanding why it happens, what we are really feeling, and how to reduce its frequency in your life.  The less experiences you have to this "guilt" the more likely you will be to engage in healthy practices that promote self-growth, awareness, and insight, that will indirectly benefit your entire family.  Tune in to learn my theory on mom guilt, how I intercept it, and how you can do the same.
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Learning to ask for help AND being ok with how it shows up

Learning to ask for help has somehow become a sign of weakness when it comes to motherhood.  We used to rely on our community, our supports, our villages, to help us ease into this new role and find our footing.  With the development of social media and more and more moms "flexing" about "doing it all" themselves, it has created the illusion that if we ask for help, we are incapable of being a good mom...when quite the opposite is true.  The hardest part about asking for help is actually ASKING for help.  The second part of that challenge is being open to receiving the help in the form that it comes.  Tune into this discussion about normalizing how difficult that can be for most moms, and how to position yourself to receive all of the help you need.
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Making a wrong turn in motherhood

Losing yourself and getting lost in motherhood are two different concepts, and for the most part, we tend to focus on the former.  In this episode, I share with you how that is a difficult concept for me to get behind, and I prefer to put my energy and focus into getting lost in motherhood.  It might sound silly, or like a wild concept, but taking the wrong turn has led to the most remarkable outcomes for me, and could for you if you learn to recognize the difference.  Tune in as I explore the power of motherhood and how sometimes the right path can only be found by making a wrong turn.
 
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There is no timetable on Postpartum

I cannot tell you how many times in the last two weeks I have heard someone say something along the lines of, "you're not even postpartum."  It had me thinking about all of the mothers who may be struggling to cope with anxiety, depression, panic attacks, etc. but are afraid to speak up about them because someone will judge them for being "out of the postpartum period."  What does that even mean?  We have to stop putting a finite end to "postpartum" and start recognizing that unresolved stressors, trauma, and emotions that occurred during the "postpartum period" can, and typically do re-surface later.
 
Tune into hear my philosophy on this, and how you can effectively identify these and work through them without the shame and judgement.  I invite each mother that listens to this to follow up with a FREE call with me to talk about her experience with this and how this episode resonated with her.
 
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Emotional Loneliness

I wanted to share with you the meaning behind Midnight Mama, and why I felt so called to provide moms with this space and place.  I talk openly about what midnights used to look like for me and how emotional loneliness crept its way into my life at one of the darkest hours.  I wanted to give moms and partners some suggestions as it relates to being helpful and informed about this loneliness, how to spot it, and what you can do.  There is so much power in this episode as it relates to the "survival period" (postpartum), and how to be sure that everything around you is leaving a positive impact on your life.
 
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The 2023 Dads

We have recognized that this generation of mothers is operating a bit differently than those before.  They are running businesses and their homes.  Showing up on social media and talking openly about their journeys to normalize it for the women who will come behind them.  They are showing everyone that becoming a mother can be hard, and the most amazing thing in this world at the same time.  What you might not be seeing is the dads who are a part of this movement, stepping in as willing, active, and able partners to support moms as they continue on this movement.  You will not want to miss this episode and all of the suggestions about finding and creating this type of partnership.
 
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Finding your frequency

I'm back with some deep value for you today.  Join me as I talk to you about finding your frequency as it relates to how you are functioning and showing up in this world.  Developing a deeper sense of self-awareness, and insight, will allow you to operate at a high frequency where you will see and experience things in a much different light.  The only thing you need to do...is change.  I know how difficult that can be, especially with all of the seasons of motherhood in full effect.  I also know what it feels like to avoid change and be stuck in a physical and mental space I don't like.  The choice is yours.
 
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Release the Guilt

Have you ever heard of "mom guilt?" It's an amazing phenomenon that we experience countless times in motherhood, and when you stop and really think about it, you are the ONLY one bothered by it.  Sometimes the best thing we can do is acknowledge it's presence and then take a few steps to release it.  When we carry this around we cannot be fully present, therefore contributing to the guilt.  Tune in and listen to how I recognized this was interfering in my life, and what I chose to do about it.
 
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The Mother’s Birth

One area that we need to focus on more in the maternal mental health space is the simultaneous birth of the mother during childbirth.  We focus our intentions on bringing the baby into the world in the least traumatic way, but somehow thrust our mothers into chaos and havoc in the process.  In this episode, I break down the process of birthing the mother and share what I am doing to assist in this process. 
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Mothering Yourself

In this episode, I talk about where I was and what I was doing last week instead of recording an episode for YOU.  This episode is near and dear to my heart because it is all about learning to mother yourself, regulate your emotions, and feed those raw emotions with what they are craving.  So many times we are caught in the middle of a storm, or tidal wave, and just keep going under, and no one coming to help us.  It can be so difficult to take care of everyone else, ask for your own help, and then tell people what that looks like for you.  Learning to mother yourself may sound like a foreign concept, but it is a necessity in this journey of motherhood and a skill that will benefit you and your family for years to come.
 
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