Midnight Mama

Must Be Nice. Why having a strong partner can get you ”mom shamed” and how to manage it

You would think that having a strong spouse/partner would be the type of flex that would get you a high five in your social circles or mom's groups.  Ironically, a lot of moms are now getting "shamed" for this and it recently happened to me.  Tune in to hear about how I managed it, how to avoid doing it (unintentionally of course), and a few other tips to take with you into the Holiday season.
 
Bonus:  I am hosting a FREE webinar in January on the power of transitions and understanding the process of behavior change.  Follow this link to register for the webinar, and receive the playback if you can't make it.  I am sharing some helpful tools for you to use when you feel like you are over yourself and need a change.  Trust me, you do NOT want to miss this.
Linked Here
If you are looking for a creative approach to taking better care of yourself search no more.  Join the Whole Mom Bingo challenge, for FREE and receive your template to follow rather than spinning your wheels trying to figure out HOW to take care of yourself.
The Whole Mom Bingo
 
Thanks for listening, and Happy Holidays!

Learning to lower the bar and how to be ok with it

If there is one thing I know for sure about moms, it's that we expect more from ourselves than anyone else does.  This is also the reason we find ourselves sick, frustrated, overwhelmed, and sometimes even angry with life and the people around us.  Tune in while I talk about the process of lowering the bar, why it is necessary, and how it will actually contribute to your growth and success much sooner.
 
If you are looking to explore more individualized support around this, fill out this form and we can set up a call.
 
Follow me on IG @ nicole_kumi or send me an email @ nkumi@thewholemom.com

Getting stuck between two versions of yourself and what to do about it

Change is hard, and understanding the process and foundation of change can make a positive impact on your situation.  Typically, when we are making changes or evolving we can start to feel overwhelmed and frustrated when things seem stagnant or not going in the direction we want them to.  Tune into my perspective on this, and learn a few tips about the process of behavior change and what you can do when you find yourself between versions of yourself, similar to an elevator stuck between floors.
 
Remember, you don't have to figure it all out on your own.  Book a free consultation and learn how you can make some changes.
 
Book Your Call Here

This might not be your winning season as a mother. But what is?

We get wrapped up in the idea of the "winning season" and can find ourselves frustrated when things aren't going our way, or we aren't winning at this season of motherhood.  Have you ever considered that you aren't meant to show up and compete in each season?  Have you reflected upon what season you thrive in and how you can lean into those?  Tune in to hear my position on the seasons of motherhood and how normalizing sitting out for a season might be better than always trying to show up and exhausting yourself in the process.
 

The biggest thief of the holiday season and what you can do about it

Whenever I hear people say, "Tis the season" I am reminded of all of the things they could be referring to, but none more so than the biggest thief of joy there is...Holiday Stress.  That's right, it has its own seasonal box because it is different than regular stress.  The holiday stress is like the one family member who we KNOW is coming to dinner, but somehow we don't fully prepare for it and are left picking up the pieces of the tornado once they are gone.  It shows up differently, manifests differently, and typically robs moms of experiencing the true joy of the holiday season.  Tune in to find out what this looks like for you, how you can implement some boundaries with the simple tool of effective communication, and what you should be striving for during this season.
 
As always, if you are in need of some additional support and are interested in working with me, follow this link, and let's talk about it.
1:1 Coaching Application

How you can physically spot the status of your mental health and why moms recover much slower

You may have heard me talk before about how your physical health is directly related to your mental health status, and why it is important to understand this.  In this episode I share my recent struggle with this, how I knew it wasn't the "stomach bug" and what I plan to do moving forward.  If you are a mom who seems to be sick more often than your friends, or other people in your home, you will find some helpful tips here in understanding why this is happening to you, and what you can do about it.  Remember, the physical symptom is not always the real problem.
At the end of the episode I share the fun challenge I am encouraging all of my email subscribers to join in on, and that will be released later this week for the month of November.  Trust me, you will want to get in on this healthy competition where we compete to encourage one another.
Join my email list here:  www.thewholemom.com
Interested in 1:1 coaching for November, fill out this form

Where ”mom guilt” originated and how you can learn to intercept it

We have all been there, or are there, at some point in our lives.  EVERY mother has experienced some form of "mom guilt" without fully understanding why it happens, what we are really feeling, and how to reduce its frequency in your life.  The less experiences you have to this "guilt" the more likely you will be to engage in healthy practices that promote self-growth, awareness, and insight, that will indirectly benefit your entire family.  Tune in to learn my theory on mom guilt, how I intercept it, and how you can do the same.
As always, if you are interested in learning more about this and working on it together, fill out the application linked below.
 
1:1 Coaching Application

Learning to ask for help AND being ok with how it shows up

Learning to ask for help has somehow become a sign of weakness when it comes to motherhood.  We used to rely on our community, our supports, our villages, to help us ease into this new role and find our footing.  With the development of social media and more and more moms "flexing" about "doing it all" themselves, it has created the illusion that if we ask for help, we are incapable of being a good mom...when quite the opposite is true.  The hardest part about asking for help is actually ASKING for help.  The second part of that challenge is being open to receiving the help in the form that it comes.  Tune into this discussion about normalizing how difficult that can be for most moms, and how to position yourself to receive all of the help you need.
If you are interested in learning more about this, or talking through your current challenges/situation, I invite you to a book a call with me where we can strategize the most appropriate interventions for you.
 
Book a call Here

Making a wrong turn in motherhood

Losing yourself and getting lost in motherhood are two different concepts, and for the most part, we tend to focus on the former.  In this episode, I share with you how that is a difficult concept for me to get behind, and I prefer to put my energy and focus into getting lost in motherhood.  It might sound silly, or like a wild concept, but taking the wrong turn has led to the most remarkable outcomes for me, and could for you if you learn to recognize the difference.  Tune in as I explore the power of motherhood and how sometimes the right path can only be found by making a wrong turn.
 
If you are interested in working together please follow this link:
https://forms.gle/VjMnkgAgifgBmW2F6
 
 

There is no timetable on Postpartum

I cannot tell you how many times in the last two weeks I have heard someone say something along the lines of, "you're not even postpartum."  It had me thinking about all of the mothers who may be struggling to cope with anxiety, depression, panic attacks, etc. but are afraid to speak up about them because someone will judge them for being "out of the postpartum period."  What does that even mean?  We have to stop putting a finite end to "postpartum" and start recognizing that unresolved stressors, trauma, and emotions that occurred during the "postpartum period" can, and typically do re-surface later.
 
Tune into hear my philosophy on this, and how you can effectively identify these and work through them without the shame and judgement.  I invite each mother that listens to this to follow up with a FREE call with me to talk about her experience with this and how this episode resonated with her.
 
Click here to set up that call AND the first FIVE to do so will receive 20% off a 6 month coaching package if they choose to move forward...
 
Share with a mom you think might need to hear this